Say hello to Miss. H.
We use strange letters today to protect the people's identities.
Miss. H is a young, spirited lady who is just shy of 30 by three or so years. Her days are filled with hopeful thoughts on a bigger and much better future for herself and future descendants.
She isn't in a hurry to settle down, so she spends her days being a happy-go-lucky young person. In this economy. I know. Happiness begins when you appreciate the little things you have, and have faith in bigger and better things on their way.
While we might think Miss. H is very happy about what she has in her life, there seems to be something we don't know. That is, there is something, or rather someone, or some people who continuously plague her thought process everyday.
If it isn't lewd gestures and crass jokes from men at work, then it is proposals that couldn't be taken seriously by any woman.
Then there are the two or three men obsessed with telling her that she needs to love them because they can't function without her love.
Miss. H does her best to avoid dealing with them but they make it so hard for her. It almost feels like she is in Sparta every day. One wrong word with either of these men and she could be taken advantage of.
She tries not to think of the risk she could be facing by entertaining their affections, so she either ignores them, or treats them with cold civility. In the past, when she was nicer to a few other young men, and entertained their attentions for longer than a week, then refused to date them, she was called names.
Not that she isn't called names right now either, but it Burt when her integrity and clean record was dragged and soiled by words that could make this blog post get taken down. Miss. H does not show that these hurt. She keeps moving on.
Due to all these, she is even afraid to approach relationships.
Recently, Mr. L, one of her longest standing admirers, messaged her and asked her out. Miss. H turned him down politely, indicating she wasn't looking to settle down. At least not yet, or perhaps she couldn't be too sure she wanted to do it. Mr. L told her she was being immature.
Miss. H felt very upset.
She never signed up for either of these attentions. They just happened. Wasn't she allowed to decide whether she wanted to be with them or not? Wasn't she allowed to make up her mind? Wasn't she meant to have her own headspace?
Then why was everyone crawling up all over her business?
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Miss. H represents a lot of single women in careers and school today.
Society keeps thinking it knows what women need, but it doesn't embrace what a woman wants.
Free and much better medical care, peace of mind, security, steady and equitable pay similar to their male counterparts, more peace of mind, freedom to make their own choices and freedom of whispers from everyone about how they should live their lives.
Why does everyone but them get a say on how to live their lives?
2019 was a terrible year for women in Kenya. South Africa has a lot of bizarre domestic violence deaths, with women bearing the brunt of this issue. Strong men have been murdering and planning to implement degrading plans on women for a while now, and this has to stop.
Why would you force a chaotic relationship on someone? Some of us don't even need to be in one to feel complete, or get married. So why would you impose one on us?
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Women never feel safe.
Due to being labelled 'the weaker sex', we always strive to stay alive within the norms society has set for us. Ridiculous norms that is.
It is almost as if merely existing in society is already a chaotic relationship.
Who runs society? Well, that is a topic for another day. I would like to think though, that men have more say in women's affairs than women do. They control everything, and this doesn't work to their advantage.
If anything, women are at a huge disadvantage most of the time. People will tell you it isn't a big deal, that it isn't something the modern and more developed part of the world cope with, but that is a lie.
Subjugating women is a foreign thing. Local traditions uplifted the level of a woman in most societies. Matriarchal societies determined the fate of everything, and women were held in high regard. they could be generals, queens and soldiers if they wanted to.
She didn't have to marry if she didn't want it.
I think that was better than now.
I'd like to tie my tale here. I am going to be late for breakfast and my trip out of town. We will talk more on this in the future.
Yours sincerely,
Me.
